Gut check…
If you start your statement:
I support equality but…
I think women should have equal rights but…
I don’t condone Domestic violence or what he did to her but…
You have already said too much.
Taking a break from discussing politics and technology, I am going to make one last attempt to explain to many well-intentioned black men who don’t support domestic violence and do not condone what Ray Rice did to understand why many black women are turned off by their less than supportive response and their reactions, nonetheless.
I’ve been battling folks all week in social media and after reading this Washington Post “Post everything” blog think piece on it which declares many black men akin to Darren Wilson supporters, I think I have it.
You see brothers who supported the Mike Brown family, have also expressed outrage over the fact that the 18 year old Ferguson, Missouri’s killer, police officer Darren Wilson hasn’t been arrested while on paid administrative leave pending investigation.
You’d think a piece equating them to Darren Wilson supporters would let them get it, but nope!
Many are still out here, in the comment section and on the pages of those who have posted the piece, calling the author, Julian Long, of TheNegroLobby.com horrible emasculating names, and calling him gay and whatnot, just for writing in support of women. and/or dissing the piece, generally.
Talk about TONE DEAF!
*sigh*
I’m going to give it one last try, tell me if this is convincing to make the point AGAIN by presenting this hypothetical:
Imagine, a hypothetical situations where Darren Wilson, after killing Mike Brown, told his boss that Mike Brown was choking him when he shot and killed him, which leads the police chief to put Wilson on paid administrative leave.
Imagine, hypothetically that a video surfaces from a camera phone which proves that Wilson NOT Brown was doing the choking or that there was no choking at all.
It turns up the chief had access to the video to prove what happened but chose not to pursue it; or gave him a slap on the wrist thinking no one would ever see the video.
The video gets released and circulated creating outrage in the community.
It causes the chief to fire Wilson.
Under that hypothetical scenario, would you be here, today, arguing that the police was wrong for firing Wilson, and subjecting him to a form of double Jeopardy?
The answer is likely NO. As a black man, you can empathize with Brown and and can relate to him?
You would be too busy concerned over the dead 18 year old and wouldn’t give a rat’s ass about Wilson getting double jeopardy fine.
That is the point.
That is why you all come across as Darren Wilson supporters.
Y’all are doing the same thing…taking up the case for the PUNISHMENT of the aggressor, the one who did the killing or punching.
And in doing so, you all come off as you are MORE upset at the institution dishing out the punishment for not subjecting the aggressor to a stiffer fine earlier on to appease the masses so that the aggressor could play next year….
…or so Darren Wilson could return to the force in a year.
Many of us women don’t want to hear it.
Jay Jay Ghatt is also editor at Techyaya.com, founder of the JayJayGhatt.com and JayJayGhatt.com where she teaches online creators how to navigate digital entrepreneurship and offers Do-It-For-You Blogging Service. She manages her lifestyle sites BellyitchBlog, Jenebaspeaks and JJBraids.com and is the founder of BlackWomenTech.com 200 Black Women in Tech On Twitter. Her biz podcast 10 Minute Podcast is available on iTunes and Player.fm. Follow her on Twitter at @Jenebaspeaks. Buy her templates over at her legal and business templates on Etsy shop!
